Friday, 30 June 2017

This Is How The Suicide Thinks About Death

This Is How The Suicide Thinks About Death

Kehinde Pius O
Motivational speaker, life coach, writer, missionary and anti- suicidal advocate

This is how the suicide thinks about death

Ending one's life usually means that one has a very unusual style of thinking.

Something is certain: practically no person wants to die. The vast majority of people conceive of the death process as the most terrible thing that can happen to an individual. We humans, in our constant desire to possess total "omnipotence" (in addition to marked ideals of transcendence), we long for permanence in life.

For the suicide, however, death takes on a special meaning . Their way of thinking about death is very different from that of the vast majority, and that influences their behavior and attitudes.

Related article: " The Threat of Suicide, Risk Factors and prevention"

Death, according to suicides
There are two different ways in which suicides can come to conceptualize the death. They are as follows.

An emergency exit
Here, the suicide understands death as the liberation of the bonds and difficulties of life, a change to pass from the world to live in another existential plane imagined and characterized by the absence of suffering .

Suicide can be planned and carried out as a way to get rid of those problems that suffocate that person. "I can no more," "I am fed up with this suffering," etc. Are just some of the statements that the person in crisis formulates in the deepest moments of his ideation, although he does not have to express them openly. The possibility of committing the act is seen as an emergency exit as their personal, family or social situation becomes virtually unbearable.

For the individual, what is to be found after having died is not so important as the fact of moving away from something: pain, sorrow, suffering of relatives and loved ones, and so on. The really important thing is to get out of your state once and for all, to cross that "dead end" once and for all. The main purpose of committing suicide is to overcome the present anguish quickly.

Suicide seen in positive
For others, suicide may have a different goal than the previous: make a change, either in oneself or in the environment where the suicide is. From this other vision, the important thing is not to get rid of that situation of anguish but rather to focus on what the person wants to achieve : tranquility, peace, happiness ...

In this case, the concept becomes a kind of portal in which the subject goes in to obtain a life experience (on a transcendental plane) more harmonious and pleasurable. Therefore, although it seems illogical and confusing, it is possible to affirm that for these people the main objective of suicide is to live fully, even if it sounds paradoxical .

From the aforementioned vision, suicide would transform itself as a gateway to a new life where the one of tranquility and the emotional tranquility are the protagonists, besides that to dress up the new stage of life and move to another one in which there will be neither the anguish or the suffering that can occur at some point in the present life. It would be something like returning to that security of the maternal uterus.

Thus, the act of suicide can be explained by a channeling towards rejection by life, or by an early approach to death itself.

You may be interested: "Avoiding the risk of suicide in depression "

Suicidal reasoning: a curious contradiction
In the existing plot of suicide, life and death are the protagonists of the drama. Between these two poles the decision is made to end one's life; In the suicidal dialectic, the fear of living and suffering, on the one hand, and the fear of dying for the other, would be the two extremes of existence.

The goal, then, is to die, but also to start living differently . Several authors claim that suicidal behavior is, in the first place, an act of life rather than death. The one who wishes to commit suicide longs to free himself of his problems, to change the existing circumstances or to return to a state of security, nevertheless, in the bottom of his being underlies a fervent desire to live.

A form of hope?
Other scholars of the phenomenon consider that suicide means hope, hope to continue living in peace and tranquility . With the above, suicide becomes the way to eliminate existing hopelessness, suffocating depression and permanent guilt. It is also a way to disappear, but remaining in the consciousness of family and friends as a painful and difficult to overcome.

At the end of those who observe life, there is the great spectrum of those who manifest a first symptom of general malaise identified as "denial of life" and disqualification of self, which produces a deep desire not to live , There is no more.

It is from this moment when there is a sudden turn towards death : from the constant desire to die to the desire to commit suicide, and from this to suicide. As we approach the end of death, the experience of suicidal thinking becomes firmer and the risk of self-destruction is higher.

Wednesday, 28 June 2017

7 Reasons for an increasing rate of suicide among teenagers

7 Reasons for an increasing rate of suicide among teenagers

World Health organization statistics revealed that one of the major victim group of suicidal are teenagers between the age of 14- 24.

1. Bullying; Bullying according to mobile dictionary means An act of intimidating a weaker person to do something, especially such repeated coercion.
Persistent acts intended to make life unpleasant for another person.

There is a very close relationship between bullying and suicidal.

Many teenagers are constantly a victim  of bullying from their colleagues who in any way considered them inferior and thus take advantage over them.

Those majorly involved in this are the cultists. I could remember then, a colleague of ours in school who was a victim of bullying. Each time he moved around the campus, there are always some guys pursuing him. At times, they will just stop him over and beat him mercilessly. At times they will send ladies his way so as to attack him on the basis of wooing their girlfriend. At other time, they might collect his phone and demand he come with money inside the  bush to come and collect it back. He was frustrated so much to the point that he eventually became a cultist.

To this our colleague, the only way he considered as a way out  is to apply the saying "if you can't beat them, you join them" and thus become a cultist which will fetch him his freedom from their constant maltreatment. But in most cases, many teenagers considered suicidal as a remedy. They just felt they can't cope again. They loose their self- esteem and began to blame God for creating them weak and others strong. And at the long run, they may end up committing suicide except they receive early attention.

2. Cyber-bullying: Another form of bullying is Cyber-bullying. In this case unlike the physical one, the victims are subjected to serious intimidation through the social media, threatening them to do something against their will and power.

This bully take advantage of a certain weakness in their victims life. Such as a past record of sexual engagement which the victim never knew or ignorantly allowed to be recorded.
And as a means of securing their freedom or covering their shame, many teenagers who fall victim end up  in suicidal.

3. Unemployment: When you're unemployed, you are always broke. Constantly suffering from depression for your inability to execute your attractive plans and  visions buried in your heart. It makes you dependable upon the people around you to at least meet the basic needs. But when in some cases the people depended upon begin to take the advantage of that person incapability to fend for himself, such may become tired of living and want to kill himself.

Most of this unemployed teenagers were sent on assignment their so called helpers  wouldn't have sent their own children. They hurl curses and abuses words upon them which may keep them in a perpetual state of depression and anxiety.

4. Failure at school: Many parents placed too higher demands on their children academy. Especially in a country like China where  in some area, the parents simply wait for their children to finish studies and become responsible to them, and for that reason, they place on the child an expectations he might  never be able to meet.
I've once heard a parent told his son, it's either you have first class or nothing else. Now think of it, what if this child doesn't have the capacity to come up with first class, or due to some reasons best known to him, fall below that and his father has already said it's either that or nothing else. Don't you think such a child may become guilty of disappointing his parents  or even consider what his father may do to him for not making them proud and as such kill himself?

I think the best a parent can do is to just encourage their children to be the best they can be and provide the environment to be it, rather than threatening them to be. Many of the parents who fall into this category never have time to encourage their children nor do they make available for them the needed facilities to be the best, they are only after their ego to lay claim on been the parents of the best graduating children.

Failure is not the end of life. Therefore, parents should learn to brace up their children even when they fail and encourage them that with little more effort, they can rise to the best rather than talking them down, comparing them with another person and perhaps cursing them, which may injure their feelings and cause them to take an action against their lives.

5. Emotional stress: Emotions is a very vital part of human make up which can be triggered by several things. Many teenagers commit suicide when they feel incapable of suppressing their emotional stress. 
Emotional stress could emanate from work load, relationship break up, death of  loved ones, change of job or environment, crossing from teenage age into adulthood ..... At any of these instances, a teenager may become emotional unstable and can harm himself or commit suicide if proper attention and care is  not given.

6. Parental abuse: We have heard of countless cases of parents abusing their own children. A case was brought up recently in a secondary school where the class teacher observed that a lady in her class has been behaving dull and not active in the class and take her to the school counselor to whom the lady confessed that her dad has been sexually abusing her. And what make this matter more complicated is that most often this wicked parents will threaten the children never to tell anyone or else she will die. And  when some of these teenagers could no longer help it, nor find help to be free from their abusive fathers,  they may consider suicide a better option.

7. Low self- esteem: Some teenagers consider themselves good for nothing, unwanted, undervalued, and second class citizen whose voice can never go beyond the ceiling thus loose site of living in the world that has made them such a forsaken being and want a consolation in the world of the dead.

The 26 Types of Suicide (According To Different Criteria)

The 26 Types of Suicide (According To Different Criteria)

The classification of the different ways of ending one's life according to forensic psychology.

Death: the end of life and everything we know , the moment we stop being who and how we are. Most people do not want to die, resulting in the idea of somewhat aversive death. However, many see in it a liberation or escape from suffering, or a means to achieve certain ends. Some of these people may decide to end their life for different reasons.

But not all suicides occur in the same way or have the same characteristics or purposes. That is why we can establish the existence of different types of suicide, classifiable according to various criteria .

The idea of suicide
It is understood that suicide is any act or omission  voluntarily with the purpose to cease to exist, that is, to take the life . Generally the person who decides to commit suicide tends to be going through a period of deep suffering vital in different important aspects of his life, without being able to face it and being in a state of despair in which the only exit that they can see is the death.

The experience of  deep trauma , the diagnosis of an incurable disease, the harassment of others or the despair and feeling of total lack of control over one's life are some of the many aspects that may precipitate some people's attempt to kill themselves. Although through this type of acts death is sought, most people who carry them out do not seek death per say but rather the liberation and cessation of the suffering that causes them .

At the organic level, suicidal behavior with a low level of serotonin in the nervous system is usually related . There are important risk factors such as the presence of psychopathology (bipolar disorder, followed by addictions, depression, schizophrenia and borderline personality disorder are some of the most linked to suicide attempts), sex (although Ideation is more frequent in women, men tend to carry out the suicidal act in a greater proportion of cases) and age, impulsivity and despair, the presence or knowledge of other suicides in the nearby environment or the existence of Persistent stress that can not be confronted due to the lack of sufficient resources.

In addition, there are different types of suicide, classifiable according to different criteria. Here are some of the main ones.

You may be interested: " Suicidal thoughts "

Types of suicide by motivation
One of the main things to keep in mind when evaluating a suicide act is the motive that has motivated the person to cause his own death. In this aspect we can find a great number of types of suicide, some of the main being the following.

1. Suicide call for attention or cry for help
Some people resort to attempted suicide as a mechanism for drawing attention to a particular fact or asking for help from facts they are not able to control . It may have manipulative purposes and the death itself is not usually wanted unless the problem situation does not change.

2. With the purpose of death
The goal of this type of suicide is to achieve one's own death. It is usually planned carefully and meticulously .

3. How to escape
Most suicides have as their real goal the cessation of suffering and not death itself. Death is seen as the only alternative to suffering that causes a specific element of reality (for example, bullying or debts), which is why the subject decides to dispose of his own life. Generally occurs impulsively and without great previous planning .

4. Finalist
This type of suicide is usually aimed at achieving a specific goal other than death or flight. He tends not to seek his own death but to fake or pretend to seek it in order to gain some kind of benefit. Examples are the cry of help mentioned above or that of revenge, although it can also pursue economic benefits such as the fact that others collect life insurance.

5. Revenge
Revenge or paranoid suicide is a type of suicide that is done for the purpose of causing harm to others, in order to make someone feel guilty and / or suffering.

6. Balance
It is considered as such the suicide carried out by people who, in the absence of psychopathology and after a prolonged period of time trying to cope with a conflictive and painful situation, decide after making a balance than to continue living does not imply any kind of gain nor for themselves or the environment. It is often observed in cases of elderly people and people with serious limitations.

Types of suicide according to the modality or method
People who choose to kill themselves resort to different means for this according to the concrete intentionality of their action, their need to have control of the situation, the level of suffering they want to suffer or simply the availability of concrete means. If we classify suicides and suicide attempts by the method used for it, we can come across different types.

7. Soft
These are forms of suicide that in principle do not cause obvious traumas and tend to cause numbness and little pain . One of the main forms of suicide with soft methods is the ingestion of massive quantities of drugs, such as barbiturates. The person usually has a more passive role in his own death, waiting for the effects of his action.

They also imply a greater likelihood of repentance and salvation , and in many cases the effects can be reversed before they cause death.

8. Hard
Within this classification are introduced methods that imply a greater brutality , such as suicide through the use of weapons (whether white or fire), electrocuted, thrown into the void or hanging. They tend to be more likely to die than soft ones, and they tend to be brutalized.

Compared to the mild forms of suicide, it is much more likely to cause some kind of suffering. They are also usually methods that involve a direct action of the individual to cause his own death.

9. Strangers
This type of suicide usually causes a high level of suffering before death, with some cruelty towards oneself. They are usually carried out in situations of psychopathology , especially  psychotic . Examples of this would be the intake of corrosive or sharp substances, self-drowning or auto-immune practices.

10. Masked
These are deaths that are caused by the person himself in a way that can be confused with natural deaths or with homicides. They usually pursue a specific intentionality, such as the collection of life insurance by relatives or blame someone for their own death.

According to the level of regulation and social integration
One of the classifications made after several studies is the one carried out by Durkheim, who considered suicide an act caused fundamentally by social elements . In this sense there are four possible classifications, related to the level of integration of the individual in the society or the regulation of this on the life of the people.

11. Selfish suicide
It is understood as such the type of suicide that occurs when the social connections of the individual are weak and the individual does not feel integrated into society. He is not able to feel satisfied due to lack of realization as a social being . He feels overwhelmed, unable and alone.

12. Altruist
It is the self-inflicted death that is produced by an excess of group integration, seeing the own death like a sacrifice realized in benefit to the group. The group is valued more than the individual .

13. Anomic
Anomic suicide is suicide carried out by those who have insufficient social regulation. The changing and unstable society means that there are no referents, modifying the values of the individual and may cause a loss of identity .

14. Fatalist
Contrary to the previous one, fatalistic suicide is seen as that carried out by individuals subjected to excessive social control and regulation, feeling oppression and impotence that can lead to seeking death as a flight from such a situation.

According to the presence of previous planning
Autolysis can also be classified according to whether it was previously planned or not.

15. Accidental suicide
It is the type of suicide that occurs by accident. The subject did not really want to die, but his performance generates a situation that ends his life.

16. Reflective, Willful or Premeditated
Premeditated suicide is one in which the person who carries it out has planned in advance both the manner and the time and place of his death. In some cases where the reason is the experience of traumatic events or in which the subject manifested a great anxiety can be observed a sudden state of calm and serenity before the act, the result of having made the decision.

17. Impulsive suicide
Impulsive suicide is one that is carried out without prior premeditation. The subject may have thought of taking his life earlier, but he does not carry out this action until a time when he feels highly activated and desperate . It can occur in situations of high anxiety, during a  psychotic outbreak or during a manic episode.

According to the result
Trying to take life can end up generating different results, depending on whether or not the attempt is successful.

18. Non-suicidal self-harm
In this case, this is not a real suicide attempt. The subject is self-injuring for different reasons but without this action entailing a real risk for his life or without the self-injury pretending this fact. Sometimes it can lead to death.

19. Attempted / attempted suicide
An act or attempt of suicide is considered to be any act voluntarily performed with the intention of obtaining one's own death without that action succeeding in its objective.

20. Consummate suicide
What we call consummate suicide is one in which the person has acted in order to give himself death and has achieved his goal .

21. Frustrated suicide
This is the kind of suicide attempt has been carried out in order to achieve death, employing methods as a rule cause the death of the individual. However the intervention of circumstantial and unpredictable elements, such as the appearance of others, rapid performance of medical services, poor planning or inaccurate use of the means chosen to kill himself have prevented runs causing death .

According to the involvement of other people
Suicide sometimes involves, whether voluntarily or involuntarily, more than one person. In this sense we can find the following types of suicide.

22. Collective or mass suicide
It is a type of suicide in which more than one person or a whole group chooses and agrees to propitiate their own death voluntarily. The reasons for this can be several, such as the flight of a frightening factor or the conviction that such an act may bring some kind of benefit. These types of acts usually occur in contexts of war situations or in sects .

23. Expanded
Extended suicide is based on the idea that an individual decides to take his own life, but in addition, he considers necessary or even compassionate the death of others generally associated with him. These other people have not manifested the intention of wanting to die .

The individual first dies to others, who are usually close relatives as children, couple or family, and then take their own lives. Such situations usually occur in family settings where the person who wants to commit suicide believes that those who leave behind will suffer greatly or can not survive without it.

24. Assisted suicide or euthanasia
Euthanasia or assisted suicide supposes the end of a person's life through the participation of another person or another, authorized and demanded participation by the subject itself or by their immediate environment in the case of irreversible injuries that do not allow the decision to be made by the individual.

25. Induced suicide
It is an act of self-injury for the purpose of death that has been provoked or facilitated due to the coercion or suggestion that other people have caused in the individual who commits suicide. The subject can be threatened or forced to die, or can be actively facilitated to feel like dying.

26. False suicide
In this case, this is not a real suicide case. It is generally a homicide or murder that has been done in such a way that it appears that the subject in question has taken his own life .

Bibliographic references:
Capponi, R. (2000). Psychopathology and Psychological Semiology. Edt. University: Santiago.

Durkheim, E. (2005). Suicide: A study in Sociology (2nd ed). Taylor and Francis Hoboken.

Monday, 26 June 2017

Syria: Create A Training Camp For Suicidal Children

Syria: Create A Training Camp For Suicidal Children

The Islamist group Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant has set up a training camp for children in northern Syria.

In the field, called Ashbal al Aazz, they prepare future suicides and teach teenagers how to act in real battles, as reported by the daily Asharq Alawsat.

Currently, up to 50 children between the ages of 7 and 13 are trained in the field. The training base is in the locality of Al Tabka, to the west of small Syrian city of Ar Raka. The instructors call the children "golden fishing", and one of them explained that "teens are a source of confidence for Islamic state, as they do not back down before any task in charge." According to him, children, especially those from poor families, are much easier to convince that they have to comply with any order, including suicide bombing, and, most important, they do not ask for any compensation for their sacrifice in honor of God.
"Older kids already want certain financial rewards for performing acts of terrorism," said one of the instructors.

Training in the field takes about 25 days. Students are divided into groups of 13 people. The main disciplines ?? In suicide school are the basis of jihad and the use of modern firearms. By "graduating", teenagers enter different terrorist groups.

Hope against suicidal

Hope against suicidal

Are you thinking suicidal? Does all hope seems to be gone and the only perceived solution is to take your life? Have you been abused  in any way? Are you frustrated and just want a retreat to the world beyond?

Maybe perhaps you have mapped out the strategies to use in killing yourself, determined when and where the plan will be executed. But I will encourage you to pause and thoughtfully read this through.

Job has a question for you;  If a man dies, shall he live again? (Job 14:14a). What a deep question from a man who himself knew what depression is, and even perhaps beyond yours  by the reason of all that befell him. In a single day, he lost all- His children, farm, workers, sheep, cow- everything was gone in a day. What else could lead a man into suicide than such great calamities. But yet he never killed himself because he knew if a man dies, there is no hope again.
You can also ask yourself, "if I kill myself, will I live again?" Or better ask, "will my death really bring solution to my life predicament?" And if NO, there is a need for a rethink. 

A rethinking on that dreams you once had that never materialized. A rethink on what will become of your family when you are gone. A rethink on what will be your lot in eternity.

Suicide is such a rash decision that pretend to offer relief from pain and trouble to its victim. But in the real sense, it is not so since a man's death, not minding the type of death is just a passage into eternity. The problem is not the death, but the course of such death.
Job never stopped at the question.

He also have a word of encouragement for you; all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come (Job 14:14b).

Does that sound like speaking about you? What of after your death the expected change now come? What if that impossibility now turn to possibility after you have gone? What if....? What if....? 

Suicidal thoughts or suicide itself often time, could be a product of impatient of man to wait until his change come since we often want an urgent result which might not be in every instances. 

Job 14:7-10  "For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.
Though the root thereof wax old in the earth, and the stock thereof die in the ground;
Yet through the scent of water it will bud, and bring forth boughs like a plant.
But man dieth, and wasteth away: yea, man giveth up the ghost, and where is he?"

The different between the man that endure it and he that killed himself is that the living still have hope come what may. Though it may be long before it materializes, but soon or later, things will come to normal. But to him that  hastily kill himself,  the above scripture says he fade away and he  is forgotten. He just don't fade away, but he fade away with reproach. Many are the instances  when a long awaited blessings manifest after the death of the bearer. And when they would have been enjoying all they have laboured for,  they have already taken an ugly decision of suicidal.

But you know by endurance, Job doesn't only overcame, but have his lost returned back in seven fold. And he thus became one of the practical model to look up to in the time of depression.

And many more other even in our present world have their testimonies to share of what an endurance in difficult time could bring a man.

And today, people are celebrating their afterward testimonies. So if you too can endure, your testimonies is next in line to be heard.

We want to hear from you. We want to share your feelings. We want to pray for you. Be free to contact us on, and we can assure you of our prompt response.

I love you and your generation needs you!


Suicidal: An Application To The World of The Dead

Suicidal: An Application To The World of The Dead

Different people applied for different things for different reasons. And for every application, there  is certainly a result, which of course could be positive or negative. Also, no serious application is done unconsciously, because the applicant want to ensure he achieve his aim for such application.

While many today are applying for contracts, job, relationship, admissions, etc, many others are applying to the world of the dead.  They just see no more reason to live any longer and thus want nothing but to end it all.

Like that applicants for job or admissions that must take adequate time to map out the best strategies to achieve the best, so also are the suicide applicants. One out of ten suicides happened without a preplaned strategies to ensure their plans is executed without being noticed. Except in the case of psychological suicidal who may take his life unconsciously, others have taken time to think through about it, map out the best method, place and time, tied up their lives activities, some even write or rewrite their wills, without been suspicious  by the people around them, so as to rush to their aids.

Suicidal are like people who are tired of a certain environment they were, and made up their mind not to listen to anyone but to relocate to another area. But the funniest thing is that many of them might not have been well prepared for the challenges of the new area totally different from where they are coming from that may encounter them in  their new environment.

And as  such, when the heat of life in this new environment rock them high, you often see some of them running back to their formal places.

But in the case of the applicant to the world of the death, once the application is guaranteed, their is no retrieval but only retribution. And I'm not so sure many of these  applicants to the world of the dead ever take time to think of the life in the new world they are just relocating to( Hell fire).

If this life is all we have, then there wouldn't have been much to the issue of suicide. In fact, there wouldn't be any one disturbing himself over anyone applying to the world of the death since after executing his plan, all has finished. But what these applicants never put into consideration is their eternity which no one can ever escape.

How do you recognize an applicants to the world of the dead?

These are some of the  warning signs that someone might likely be applying to the world of the dead and understanding them will help us to rescue some of them and help them to see every reasons to live. Explicable loss of energy, constant fatigue, changes in eating behavior, loss of appetite, changes in sleep cycle, insomnia or excessive need, Social isolation, prolonged periods of incommunication with family or close relatives, permanent feelings of social rejection, recurrent abandonment and demotivation of activities that require a certain demand of effort, expression of suicidal thoughts, previous history of suicide attempts, direct threats or Indirect reports of suicide, verbal reports of having no reason to live or questioning why they were born.

When you observe the above stated signs in someone around you, it is a warning sign for you that if you are slow in response, you may soon loose that beautiful face, and never to meet again  eternally.

How can we help these applicants back to life?

Job 33:23-30  "If there be a messenger with him, an interpreter, one among a thousand, to shew unto man his uprightness:
Then he is gracious unto him, and saith, Deliver him from going down to the pit: I have found a ransom.
His flesh shall be fresher than a child's: he shall return to the days of his youth:
He shall pray unto God, and he will be favourable unto him: and he shall see his face with joy: for he will render unto man his righteousness.
He looketh upon men, and if any say, I have sinned, and perverted that which was right, and it profited me not;
He will deliver his soul from going into the pit, and his life shall see the light.
Lo, all these things worketh God oftentimes with man,
To bring back his soul from the pit, to be enlightened with the light of the living".

There is need for more advocacy against this demonic way of death like never before. The Christian bodies as the only agent of the kingdom of God on earth must  be frank about making it know the eternity of every suicidal, non governmental organizations must stand up and do more to say no to this anomalous death.

Governments should also see to setting up  plans to help those with suicidal thoughts and offer them a better hope to continue to live.

In conclusion, bring back their souls from the pit, to be enlightened with the light of the living (Job 33:30). Be a light through which an applicants to the world of the dead see the realities of life. Love and embrace them. Never stigmatize them because you don't know he might still be the same person God had prepared to use for you tomorrow. Meaning that if he's gone now, your tomorrow fulfilment also suffer defeat.

With adequate love and warm acceptance, we can help them cancel their application to the world of the dead (Quit suicide) and embrace life. These applicants are just people like you also, so feel for them and stand with them.

If you're presently thinking suicidal, or you know someone who does, please cancel the application. You worth more than to just die like that.

We are here to help you as we walk beside you to recover yourself back. We are not condemning you for wanting to do so, because we don't know what led you to that point, but we do believe that there is favor we can still do to others, and there is an encouragement we can still also give.

So, my friend, don't give up on life yet, and don't give in to the world of the dead now.

We want to hear from you. We want to share your feelings. We want to pray for you. Be free to contact us, and we can assure you of our prompt response.

I love you and your generation needs you!




56% of women who commit suicide in the world are Chinese. Abortion is strongly associated with increased suicides. There is clinical evidence indicating that after an abortion suicidal attitudes can occur due to the pain of loss and depression. In addition, male preference in rural areas leads to infanticide and selective abortion of girls. The doctrine of Confucius, as philosophy and religion, is the most important cultural influence in China. The attitude toward death, including suicide, has to do with Confucian virtues.

The event is not uncommon
        56% of women who commit suicide in the world are Chinese. An average of 280,000 people are killed each year in the country (one death every two minutes), of which more than 150,000 are women, according to data from the Chinese Ministry of Health.

        The Asian giant, which accounts for 20% of the world's population (1.260 million), accounts for a quarter of all suicides in the world and is one of the few countries where the index is higher in women than in men. It is the fifth cause of death in China and the first among young women aged 15 to 34 living in rural areas.

        Liu, 18, had tried to commit suicide five months earlier because his superiors decided to extend their apprenticeship status in a porcelain factory six months later. For her it was a humiliation.

        Her supervisor accused her of not working independently and of always going around arguing with other classmates. On the eve of her death, the supervisor reprimanded her, and this time her sister intervened to defend her, which further angered her boss, who went so far as to say: "Yes, I am hostile towards your sister, and even if she try to commit suicide now to threaten me, I do not care. " Liu appeared lifeless the next morning.

Assumed in culture

        Never before has the Chinese Government paid attention to this serious problem and only very recently have they begun to study the causes that each year bring to two million people trying to end their lives (of which 1.5 million are women) . One of the reasons is that the use of suicide has been, throughout history, deeply rooted in the culture and values of the country. There is no social or religious taboo to outlaw it. In Eastern culture, taking life has been considered a form of expression in itself, "a protest in silence," while the exteriorization of emotions is neglected.

        The dimension of the drama, now described as a major health problem, has led the authorities to draw up a National Plan for Suicide Prevention , which will be launched within two years. The initiative will include the World Health Organization (WHO) and international experts such as Michael Phillips, executive director of the Chinese Center for Suicide Research and Prevention (CIPS).

        There are many social, philosophical and historical factors involved in this culture of suicide. On the one hand, China has been experiencing rapid economic development since 1978, which has brought radical changes to the lives of the population. Tides of migration from the countryside to the city, one-child policy, closure of hundreds of state-owned enterprises, unemployment, end of social benefits and work for life, liberalization of most economic sectors and growing consumer culture And money.

The agrarian problem
        These changes, which in theory have most affected city life, have not been reflected in the same way as suicide in women. While urban women have accepted the restriction of the only child in favor of a better quality of life, greater income and opportunities, children contribute to the family economy and are the foundation of these.
        This phenomenon is explained by Phillips, for whom the key is the tremendous influence of birth control on suicide in rural women.

In the field, marriages can request permission for a second child if the first is a girl, and it is the officials of the local birth control office who set the right time for pregnancy from regional quotas. Abortion is strongly associated with increased suicides. There is clinical evidence indicating that after an abortion suicidal attitudes can occur due to the pain of loss and depression, and the Chinese woman is pressured to abort when she is unable to avoid unwanted pregnancies. In addition, male preference in rural areas leads to infanticide and selective abortion of girls.

        On the other hand, in the rural environment marriages between families continue to be arranged and the woman's subjection to her father, first, and to her husband and mother-in-law, continues. The woman leaves her family to go to the husband, who brings her work, the children and the care of the elderly (hence the preference for the son). Added to this is poor literacy, lack of opportunities and low self-esteem. According to estimates, at least 40% of married women suffer some form of violence from their husbands.
Rebellion and misunderstanding

The countryside and the city

        Mei had tried to commit suicide two years ago in her hometown, after being mistreated and raped by her ex-husband. After that she marched to the city and got a job as a cleaner in a hotel. After his second attempt he explained that this time the reason was the fact that he realized how different life was in the city. "I could not think of anything else, why I could not learn to read and write, why I did not have the opportunity to choose who to love, why I had to give up my daughter, when people have daughters in the city With beautiful dresses that go hand in hand with their boyfriends? Why not me, why I am a second class citizen, why my destiny was that?

        The preference for the male has generated a profound imbalance, since for each 100 women of the last generation there are 120 men. This has led to the trade of women, who are abducted by organized gangs. Unmarried peasants pay between 250 and 500 euros for a young girl, and although there are no exact figures, it is estimated that tens of thousands are sold every year. Some manage to escape, but it gives them so much shame that many times they do not return with their family.

A tremendous psychological pressure

        And one last factor, albeit no less alarming. A decade ago, the only child was spoken of as a "time bomb." These young people are subjected to tremendous stress in their studies. They are under permanent pressure from their parents and grandparents, who put all their hopes in their academic future, while at the same time overprotecting them. This makes them incapable of assimilating failures or amorous disappointments, which explains many suicides among the young population.

        Wu was suspended from the college entrance examination and, embarrassed, decided not to go back to school and applied for a job in a factory. His father became furious and told him during an argument that he no longer wanted her as his daughter. She obeyed her father, could not rebel against her parents. She was convinced that she did not have enough talent to go to college and she preferred to work so as not to face new failures and displease her parents. The solution was a suicide attempt.
The fact that so many deaths occur also has to do with the shortage of health resources in the countryside and the lack of timely medical care. In 58% of cases, they are poisoning with rattan, a product with a fulminating effect in all households in rural China that, although not painful to swallow, causes chest pain, gasping, cramps, convulsions and coma.

        The Chinese way of dealing with suicide has been consolidated throughout the history of their civilization, to which is added the position of total inferiority of women in society over millennia. But it is the doctrine of Confucius, as philosophy and religion, the most important cultural influence in China. The attitude towards death, including suicide, has to do with Confucian virtues like zhong, loyalty or fidelity; Xiao, piety, attention, respect and reverence to parents; Ren, benevolence, humanity; Yi, righteousness, justice, equity. From feudal China to the modern one, the woman has committed suicide by loyalty to the husband when he died. Another reason has been the death of women to protect the good name and decency of the family, Whether she had been raped or had a premarital relationship. Often, the widow resorted to suicide if she was in need of breaking the rules of decency to survive, such as starting a new relationship for economic reasons. These brushstrokes give an idea of​the current problem. Inheritance of the past, negligence on the part of the authorities, scarcity of health and economic resources, lack of sensitivity, inability to externalize feelings ...

The Chinese throughout history have socialized their personal and interpersonal difficulties through suicide, accepted method to communicate with society and to solve the pressures. What is strange, then, is that society, or the State, has never before thought to hear and respond to such dramatic calls of attention.

Saturday, 24 June 2017

Avoiding suicide part 2

Avoiding suicide  part 2

Suicide and its attempts are an anomalous way of communicating that something is not right in the psycho-emotional life of the individual, but it is clearly a spiritual condition, and paradoxically we try to deny that it exists in Christian circles, it is an issue which we evade until it is too late, it is well known that no one likes to talk about suicide ...

Little by little, the flower that grows in you, fades, you become a robot, you do not need to eat, nor sleep ... You are empty inside.

One day without more, you change your state, your body does not feel or suffer, you only notice a deep void, and your soul loses desire ... you are left without more, you are left despaired, not knowing what to do, nor to say, the seconds they turn into hours, time almost seems to stop, it torments you, as if it were a mockery.

The only thing that you find in you, that reminds you of a person, are the tears that remain in you, and the memories that hit your cold body.

This is a fragment of a poem by a young man of 16 years old who was admitted to the emergency department six times for suicide attempts, when analyzing his lines, you can identify some typical symptoms of this scourge that every day takes more lives, the suicide. According to the World Health Organization by the year 2020, the number of victims will reach more than one million five hundred thousand souls per year in the world, most of them young people between the ages of 14 and 24, making suicide one of the three leading causes of death in this age range.

However my call and that of other professionals especially mental health professionals is that we must be alert to the problem, observe and know how to help to avoid the increase of human losses because of this.

A key point in preventing this phenomenon is to understand the social and psychological interrelations that precipitate this situation.

There is a link between depression and suicide, depression is a state of mind that is characterized by feelings of deep sadness, in depression sadness is so severe that all hope is lost, leading the individual to inactivity And to the pointless, it is those moments  when you can start thinking about suicide.

Although people with depression are the most important group at risk for suicide, they are not the only ones who commit suicide, other cases may suffer from schizophrenia, addictions, anxiety disorder, eating disorder (anorexia and / or bulimia) or borderline disorder Of personality, among others.

It is worth noting that not all depressions are suicidal, but not having adequate and timely management can evolve into suicidal depression.

The second instance, the key is to recognize the warning signs, which will tell you when someone may be rushing to this decision.Explicable loss of energy, constant fatigue, changes in eating behavior, loss of appetite, changes in sleep cycle, insomnia or excessive need Social isolation, prolonged periods of incommunication with family or close relatives, permanent feelings of social rejection, recurrent abandonment and demotivation of activities that require a certain demand of effort, expression of suicidal thoughts, previous history of suicide attempts, direct threats or Indirect reports of suicide, verbal reports of having no reason to live or questioning why they were born. It is important to take into account situational triggers or that precipitate suicide. An extensive or severe period in depression without psychological treatment pertinent for these cases can of course lead to,suicide. This depression can be caused after a loss or a change matters In youth and adolescence , an affective loss or continuous conflicts with one or more romantic or familiar relations. Academic, labor or financial problems.
Excessive consumption of psychoactive substances, like alcohol, tobacco or drugs. As third aspect it should be noted that according to Research, dysfunctionality of the family, defined as permanent conflicts of aggression or indifference to the affective needs of the members, the absence or precariousness of the paternal figure, and the iniquity of affective bonds in the family environment, become the Predisposing factors that facilitate the appearance of emotional disorders that in many cases end up with suicide.

Thursday, 22 June 2017

Depression: Life experience

Depression: Life experience.

I wish to share this life experience of someone I knew to help you also to overcome your depression. In life, we can always learn from one another experiences. And I hope this person experience will be helpful to someone.

Firstly, let me say that we all experience depression at one point or the other for different reasons. In other world, no human being is totally free from this serious epidemic. But what mater is the individual responses to it.

Many events of life could lead one into a depressed state, which if not curb on time could result into several damages to its victim among which we have suicide, untimely death, low self esteem, several sicknesses.....

Depression was recorded to be one of the reasons why people committed suicide. And this tell us how serious the matter is.
Our case study in this article according to him fell into a deep state of depression which lasted over a month over an unfair treatment he was receiving from a lady he so much love and have come to trust with his whole heart, only for  the lady to started acting funny without any offense from his own end nor any cogent reason from the lady either. And what make the matter more worse is that she never declare her intention to quite the relationship, but attitude wise,the guy knew she is some miles away already.
And due to the level of this brother's commitment to the relationship, he became seriously depressed to the point that everything became so boring to him, he was loosing his sleep, loosing weight and getting lean without sick.  It was even recorded that his condition began to made him hostile to himself and the people around him, and not longer he began to perceive malfunctioning in his health. He even lost some huge money from his investment because he was in serious confusion and forgot to do a certain follow up expected of him, and as a result, he lost the business he has invested money and energy on. It was at this point he realized how much harm he had done to himself, even greater than his relationship that wasn't working. Already he is gradually killing himself inside and at this point because of his state of hearth, he is vulnerable even to evil thoughts.

If you find yourself in the case of this fellow, what would you do?
In his own case, he sought for help from God's word and he discovered that he had successfully dethroned Christ on the center of his heart, and thus enthroned his challenges, fear, depression, and even his girlfriend. And at this point it became so glaring that the problem is not even his girlfriend as he used to think, but himself. The problem is actually an issue of ownership of his life. And so he stopped shifting blame, ask God for mercy and began to engage himself in  the healing process through positive and healthy engagement of his thought.
What a better way to overcome depression! Bible always have answers to every of man's challenge if only we will consult it.

Symptoms of depression
1. Retirement mentality
2. Withdrawal from what once give you pleasure
3. Constant fatigue
4. Insomnia
5.  Loosing focus
6. Boringness
7. Low or lost of appetite
8. Dullness
9. Weight loss
10. Constant suicide thoughts.

What can you do if you meet yourself in the same shoe?
1. Pray to God for help.
2. Speak to a professional counselor.
3. Look into the Bible.
4. Talk to a friend. A lady recently shared with me  her experience of relief from depression simply because she shared her experience with me, and she was encouraged based on my own experience too. She said "you saved my heart from bursting out".
There is someone there also who cares about you. Pour out your depression to him and enjoy friendly consolation.
5. Be positive
6. Don't make any vital decision or take a vital step. Any step taking at the point of depression could predispose you to some serious dangers. So at this time, be calm and stay calm.
7. Belief in yourself and a better tomorrow

What if your partner has depression?

What if your partner has depression?
Helping Your Partner With Depression
Sometimes the couple relationships face problems that are beyond our control, as one of them gets sick. Depression is a disease that needs to be treated by a specialist, but as a couple we can also help. We wonder what to do if your partner has depression, how to help her out.

The role of the couple in a person with depression

In some cases the depression has become a reason for sentimental rupture. This emotional disorder ends up obscuring not only the life of the person who suffers it, but the lives of all who are at his side. The feeling of helplessness, frustration and anguish at not being able to do anything for the other person can end the couple.

So that your partner's depression does not lead to the breakdown, there are some things you can do, but between them is not to take the role of savior. A depression requires medical treatment,  otherwise,you may not be able to get anyone out of depression. Yes, you can instead be by his side and give him a hand whenever he need it.

Unconditional support is one of the secrets of happy couples. When you have a problem of difficult solution such as depression, you can not blame or look the other way. You must face the problem at your side never on a plane of superiority but unconditional love and support. And above all, you should try to understand depression.

The main problem for couples when one of them suffers from depression is misunderstanding on the part of the other. Why are not you happy if you have everything? They are the most common questions that can make you throw the towel ahead of time. Do not do it if you think your relationship is worth it except you have made up your mnd to loose your relationship.The depression of your partner is a struggle of the two of you.

Symptoms of female depression

The number of cases of depression among women is very alarming. Depression is especially feminine because, according to scientific studies, for every depressed man there are two women with depression. 10% of the population suffers from depression to varying degrees.

Depression has a cure if symptoms are identified early

Diagnosing depression and treating it properly is crucial to restoring the quality of life of the depressed patient. Depression treatment is based on medications and therapy. Cognitive therapy is a major weapon against depression. The therapist focuses his action on helping the patient to review their thoughts and emotions from there, change their behavior.

Hormonal factors Should contribute to the greater frequency of cases of depression in women. In particular, changes in the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, abortion, postpartum period and menopause. Many women have more stress because of the responsibilities of child care, home maintenance and work. Some women have a greater burden of responsibility for being single mothers or for taking care of elderly parents.

10 Symptoms of depression in women
These are some of the symptoms of depression. Answer these questions sincerely and if there are many affirmative answers, dear friend, it is time to seek the help of a specialist and begin treatment.
1 Do you have no patience with anything and bad temper reign in your behavior?
2. Are you isolating yourself from people for no reason?
3 Have you lost interest in activities that once filled you with pleasure, such as Sex for example? 4 Have you stopped wanting to eat and your favorite dish no longer makes the day happy?
5 Do you lose or gain weight suddenly?
6 Have you not been asleep for a long time and for many hours? Do you have trouble sleeping? 7 Do you feel discomfort and an ongoing feeling of tiredness without a clear reason?
8 Do you have self-esteem on the ground with a frequent feeling of inferiority or guilt?
9 Do you have a confused mind with problems to concentrate, organize your ideas or make decisions
10 Do you often think of death or suicide?
If you have more yes, then don't wait until it gets out of hands. Speak out! Seek for help so that you can bounce back to your original condition on time.

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Sunday, 18 June 2017

The worrying number of suicides in Colombia

The worrying number of suicides in Colombia

Rates continue to rise, especially among children under 14 and over 80. Experts fear that it will become an epidemic.

Inquire the inscrutable. Understand the human mind. Every 40 seconds someone decides to take their own lives, which represents about 3,000 deaths a day in the world; However, suicide remains a taboo subject. A few days ago, Colombia was shocked by the homicide-suicide of a Colombian family in Sydney, Australia, where parents and their two autistic children were poisoned with odorless gas. Historically, national rates have been lower than in Asia and the Old Continent, but, as homicide declines, in recent years the trend of self-inflicted deaths is beginning to change in Colombia.

Faced with the last decade, fatal self-injuries increased more than 10 percent and were the fourth place of violent deaths in Colombia. The national suicide rate is 5.22 per 100,000 population older than 5 years. However, the Forensis 2015 report by the Institute of Forensic Medicine and Forensic Sciences showed that some departments exceeded the national average: Arauca with 11.68, Amazonas with 10.68, Caldas with 8.45, Huila with 7.75 and Quindio With 7.59. By contrast, the departments with the lowest statistics are Vichada, Cordoba, Bolivar, La Guajira and San Andrés.

Particular attention is drawn to the fact that there are small municipalities where the risk is soaring: Lourdes in Norte de Santander, with a rate of 111.48 per 100,000 inhabitants, Pueblo Rico in Risaralda with 71.20 and Berbeo in Boyacá with 67.07. In the second this was due to the determination of indigenous leaders to end their life last year, a phenomenon similar to the one that for months has been hitting the department of Vaupes.

Divine Youth Treasure

Both in the country and in the world, the most vulnerable population is between 15 and 29 years old. It represents 49 percent of suicides, particularly in the range of 20 to 24 years. In general terms, a population profile can be seen where the propensity to suicide could be greater: young men without secondary education, unemployed and with a tendency to mental illness or psycho-affective disorders such as schizophrenia, bipolarity and depression or vices such as alcoholism and drug addiction

When reviewing the factors for young people to make this decision, in addition to psychiatric pathologies, these usually respond to frustration in immediate life projects. For example, a study on suicide among university students between 2004 and 2014 at the Javeriana, Santo Tomas, Los Andes, Nacional and Manuela Beltrán universities found that students often commit suicide by "proximal determinants such as the breakdown of relationships, loneliness , Academic losses and difficulties in adapting to university life ". But these can also outweigh the academic and the difficulties of the first job, and should be mainly due to dysfunctions such as domestic violence or absence of parents, bullying or sexual discrimination. For the director of the Javerian Youth Observatory,

The need to keep a record and follow up on young people trying to commit suicide and psychological accompaniment when they suffer from mental disorders or problems of adaptation has been emphasized on several occasions. This is particularly true in those institutions where students chose the educational campus to commit the fatal act, so that they transcend the mere need to maintain the good image of the university and really evaluate the complexity of the phenomenon.

Unexpected alarms

But to simplify a phenomenon involving multiple edges would be nonsense. The Forensis report also showed unexpected events: the vulnerability of children and the elderly has so far been fired. And although the reasons can be varied, preadolescents include problems of self-esteem, school bullying, lack of psychological orientation, academic pressure and rejection due to their gender orientation. In addition, it has evaluated the possible incidence of access to social networks from an early age and the advancement of information technology, which limits the relations of neighborhood and friendship and leads to more lonely lives since childhood.

On the other hand, only last year the suicide rate in men older than 80 years was 258 percent above the general population. Experts agree that this decision responds to the fact that they do not want to be a hindrance to their family, nor to deal with years of degenerative diseases, particularly those that threaten their mental capacity. It also adds the cultural aspect of the family, where the grandmother plays a role of upbringing, while the grandfather feels relegated. Likewise, the lack of money, economic dependence and the abandonment of old age in the country are making suicide an epidemic among the elderly, with only one in five receiving a pension and more than 20 percent living in poverty.

In the world

In recent decades, suicide has increased by 60 percent globally, not including self-inflicted death attempts, which are 20 times more frequent than the act as such. Every year the World Health Organization (WHO) has about 900,000. Many of these occur in tourist places that end up becoming true meccas of suicide in the world. Among the most recognized are the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, the Aokigahara Forest in Japan, the Niagara Falls between the United States and Canada, the Beachy Head cliff in England and the Yangtze Bridge in the city of Nanjing in China.

However, the countries with the most disturbing rates are Guyana, India and the Koreas, with rates that exceed more than seven times the Colombian average. Understanding why it happens there is more complicated, because in addition to being a multifactorial phenomenon, it sometimes responds to entrenched cultural traditions, such as the macabre collective suicide of a religious sect in Guyana in the 1970s. However, there have been attempts to control the phenomenon. In South Korea, for example, Seoul's Hyowon Therapeutic Center devised an eccentric therapy to combat growing suicide: subjecting patients with depression who have attempted suicide to plan their funeral, write their wills, say good-byes to their loved ones, and lock themselves up In a coffin,

Mental health

For the time being, in Colombia, in its Ten-year Plan for Public Health 2012-2021, the Ministry of Health placed suicide as a matter of priority surveillance. However, "the health system is an aggravating because if it is difficult to enter into physical health, access to psychologists and psychiatrists the opportunity is almost nil, unless the patient arrives in a suicide attemp. The attention is inopportune and, as if that were not enough, the country has not really studied how anti-acne drugs, antipsychotics and antidepressants incite the suicidal instinct.

Piedad Bonnett, author of the book "What has no name",  says, "we must de-stigmatize suicide and at the same time prevent it, things that seem contradictory." The WHO insists on improving the training of health professionals, dealing adequately with psychological disorders and following up on those who have tried to take their own lives. This is particularly necessary in Colombia, where suicidal dynamics are diverse, and also include vulnerable ethnic communities such as indigenous peoples. Suicide must be understood as a social phenomenon in all its complexity. Moreover, in a broadly religious and conservative society, one must free him from the veto to which he has been condemned and withdraw once and for all the veil of silence and mystery that envelops him.



By: Fasanya Adesoji

Life, as we have been told from generation past, is a battlefield. This proposes that as we navigate through life, we are faced with different enemies whose aim is to defeat  or kill us. As we are faced with enough enemies, we also have soldiers whose side we belong. Together as a troop we face the enemies, when we lose the battle, we lose together and if victory is ours, we all celebrate it. However, we sometimes have soldiers who betray our cause and give the enemy a stronghold in our base. We too sometimes infiltrate the enemys camp. We have different strategies which may help grant us victory under the leading of our commander or sell us cheap.

This view seems to capture life in its entirety and I so much agree with it. However, let me introduce another view to us. In this view, we are not soldiers  for soldiers have a singular goal which is to fight the enemy with all they have got and they either succeed or die trying. Their death is dutiful and honorable.

Here is the other view I want to propose. LIFE is a journey of no-return and we all are sent to embark on this journey. Of a truth, we do not determine what place in life we find ourselves. We dont choose our country and family but we carve our path by our present decisions, we realize our future by each step that we take every moment of the way. The view of life seems callous and wicked, it seems to propose that the unseen hand that controls the universe is a dictator who lord it over us. But the contrary is true which is that out of love and perfect will, the unseen real and superior being puts us in places where we can make the best of life.

As we transit from a world that exists out of time into a world that exists in time, we forget our decisions and resolutions that we made outside of time. To help us achieve purpose, the unseen hand places us where we are most needed (who knows whether we chose that place when we existed outside of time?).

If our view about life as a journey of no-return isnt whole, we will think that the unseen being is wicked and we cannot return from such journey. This isnt true because a journey of no-return do not mean we will fade away in the journey, it just mean that the enemy that we meet along the way is very wicked and determined to make us fail but there exist a way out of his gimmicks. Those with improper view of the whole and who are pessimistic soon accept the weight of the enemys gimmicks and can resolve into taking decisions of which the chief is SUICIDE.

Suicide is the response of man who has accepted failure from the enemy. It graduates from failure  in school, business, marriage and different aspects of life. This failure presents fear and when fear has had its full course, we see hopelessness which bears fruit of depression and ultimately, suicidal thoughts. These thoughts can be overwhelming that ability to see to the future is lacking.

Many people think money is the cure for suicide but its not because even the rich commit suicide. Love, truly curb the act of suicide because it helps to take the one who is at the edge of killing himself from such downside and pushes such persons to a height of refreshing. I am strongly in support of showing love to everyone who are around us for we would not know when we would be helping a neighbor. And since suicide is first of all an emotional thing then a physical thing, so when we shower love on the depressed, we give them victory over oppression.

Also, the seat of these undulating emotions reside in the mind then everyone who can build a resistance in him against suicidal thoughts. This shield help prevent one from the millions of negative thoughts that flies around in the thought world. And what is this shield? It is a mindset that sees the bright side of everything. It is a mindset that sees positivity in negativity. It is being optimistic in the face of overwhelming challenges.

Let me conclude by saying, we can help depressed people around us by showering love on them because love answers all emotional distress. However, we can prevent even getting depressed (which precedes suicidal thoughts and suicidal thoughts manifest in suicidal action) by remaining positive in everything that we do.

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Saturday, 17 June 2017

Men commit suicide, women try

Men commit suicide, women try

Male volunteer deaths triple female deaths - Disproportion is attributed to genetic and biological factors - In 2008 there were more deaths from this cause than from trafficking

Around 2,700 people commit suicide every day and another 54,000 are attempted. At least those are estimates from the World Health Organization (WHO), based on official figures collected on five continents and do not include Africa or some Asian countries. What no one argues is that suicide is the leading cause of violent death and that these numbers exceed the sum of the deaths of all wars and homicides occurring on the planet. This is a phenomenon that increases year after year and that reason has led the WHO to estimate that in 2020 there will be a 50% increase in the number of people taking their own lives.

In the case of Spain, the latest official data reveal that in 2008 there were 3,457 suicides, a figure that for the first time exceeds those killed in traffic accident (3,021). That means an average of nine daily suicides. It is note worthy that of that total, 77.4% were men (2,676), compared to 781 women.

The National Statistical Institute notes that this ratio of three to one is identical in all provinces and communities, and very similar to that of the European Union and that of the vast majority of countries in the world. Another thing is the suicide rate, which in Spain stands at 7.58 per 100,000 inhabitants, well below the European average. Among the 10 countries with the highest suicide rate on the planet, five are members of the European Union (Lithuania, Hungary, Slovenia, Belgium and Finland).

Why do men commit suicide so much? It's not a quick-response question. The specialists have been living with this reality for years, but there are few rigorous studies to answer it. "It is true that men commit suicide three times more than women, in Spain and Europe, but it is also known that women try to take their lives three times more than men because they live with a pressure three times higher," explains Psychiatrist Carmen Tejedor, one of the most authoritative voices in Spain to talk about the thorny and complex subject of suicide. In 2005, Tejedor was the driving force behind the first suicide prevention plan implemented in Spain. It was in the hospital Sant Pau of Barcelona and five years later has managed to reduce the deaths by 20%.

"The great disproportion between suicidal men and women is due to genetic and biological factors. Testosterone has historically turned them into hunters, making them more impulsive and more resilient," says Tejedor. That is joined by sociocultural and even moral factors. "Male suicide is seen as a matter of honor, which is not the case with women." Her death is less accepted and one tends to think that if she takes her life she it is because she is a bad mother. Which the tribe has not protected, "reasons the psychiatrist. The exception to this rule of three male suicides by a female is China, where women commit suicide twice as many as men. Weaver attributes it to the social role that women have in that country.

"Men choose a much more deadly and decisive method," says Javier Jimenez, clinical psychologist and president of the Suicide Prevention, Research and Intervention Association. Official data reveal that half of the suicides in Spain (1,723 out of 3,457) used hanging or strangulation. Of these, 1,426 were men and 247 women. The second most commonly used method was to jump into the vacuum from a high place (705 cases) and with firearms they took their lives 194, of which 186 were men.

"Do not say that they die less because they just want to get attention." "It's not true, they want to commit suicide, but they can not do it," says psychologist Jimenez. More compelling is shown his colleague. "A person does not play life in the attempt only for notoriety." That explanation of the hysterical finalism to explain suicide is not understanding anything. To talk about theater in those cases seems at least sadistic, because what is in reality is A Russian roulette, "says Tejedor.

This psychiatrist has treated hundreds of people with suicidal tendencies during their professional career and also attended the burial of many of them. "They are deeply unhappy people because their only essential thought is death. Their desire to die is inversely proportional to the happiness they feel." That is why, he adds, when those patients come to your office and find them lively, Tejedor says they are eager to continue living.

Another form of suicide in both sexes is self-poisoning by drugs or drugs (217 for men and 137 for women). "Drugs are a breakthrough for mankind, but they can be deadly mixed with some buckets. Home made poisons are more within the reach of women," Tejedor reasons.

"It is a shame to talk about it because there is always the feeling that something could have been done to prevent it" , Explains Miquel Orós, a forensic doctor with 25 years of experience who for more than a decade was part of a group of doctors of the hospital of Bellvitge dedicated to the biochemical study of the cerebral pathologies. He has treated hundreds of patients and argues that the main cause of suicide is depression, loneliness and lack of communication in which thousands of people are plunged.

"Suicide is not easy. To take one's life, one must have a great capacity for reasoning," says Miquel Orós. Dr. Carmen Tejedor also conveys a respect for these people, far removed from the social topic, which considers them cowards. "Suicides are tremendously unfortunate people and suicide is the most devastating death there is, far more than a terminal cancer," he concludes.

In the case of men, adds Orós, the high proportion of suicides also has to do with being more introverted. "It is very difficult for us to communicate. Very few men admit that they are wrong and need help." In this sense, Jimenez remembers that more than 90% of his patients are women. "When they undergo a depression, they are more aware and they do not see the psychologist or psychiatrist as a stranger. Problems need to be discharged in a constructive way, otherwise they explode and the consequences can be tremendous."
One of every four suicides that occur in the world is carried out under the age of 25. "It costs me much more to understand that a 15-year-old boy takes his life out of a loving disappointment than an old man who lives alone," explains Jiménez, although Dr. Tejedor recalls that "emotional storms in adolescence are much worse than Of old age because, in addition, there is greater consumption of toxic substances ". What the psychiatrist flatly rejects is that blanket of media silence on the subject. "No one believes that the so-called effect. To say that one does not speak in order not to provoke more victims does not make sense," he says.

The suicide rate is increasing with age. In men between 15 and 19 years old it is 2.55 per 100,000 inhabitants; From 20 to 24 years old it rises to 7.8 and between 90 and 94 years, the rate is higher than 47 deaths. What is common in both sexes is that the largest proportion are between 40 and 45 years. Why? Javier Jimenez says that "it is not possible to generalize, there is no single reason. It is a simplism to say that the man commits suicide because she is a viper that has left him without a floor and without seeing the children. He takes his life because he mistreats it. There is never a single reason. " The decisive thing, in his opinion, is the character, the attitude towards life and, above all, the environment. "If you stay unemployed, but you have a professional mattress, friends and family, you do not kill yourself."

Five are the causes that can push a person to suicide, explains the psychiatrist Carmen Tejedor. The most frequent is to suffer a mental disorder by depression, schizophrenia or drug addiction. Suicidal thoughts follow or have tried, and the third reason is to suffer a painful or chronic illness.

Suffering the consequences of a hard-to-digest personal event, such as the death of a relative or marital breakdown, also lead to suicide. Finally, social isolation and lack of attachment is another triggering cause. "And that may be motivated by being an immigrant, or gay, or old man living on a sixth floor without a lift," explains Tejedor, who is skeptical of official statistics. "Believing them is part of human ingenuity." And it is explained. "If in Madrid there are very few suicides it is because they do not register them, but, for example, in Palencia, which are three and that of the cap, can not be hidden."

Indeed, for the National Institute of Statistics (INE) only 178 suicides are recorded in 2008 in the Community of Madrid, behind Galicia or the Canaries, with much less population. The list is led by Andalusia, with 813 suicides, followed by Catalonia, with 424.

All this raises the controversial issue of covert suicide and the tendency of the public authorities to hide it. The psychologist Javier Jiménez states that "there are many suicides that happen through accidents". As in all areas, it depends on how and who accounts. For INE, for example, in Extremadura there were 78 suicides in 2008. According to the Institute of Legal Medicine of that community were 96.

- Man and Spanish. 77.4% of the people who take their own lives (2,676) are male and 80% of the total are of Spanish nationality. Foreign suicides in 2008 were 291.

- Between 35 and 55 years. More than a third of the suicides (1,233) are concentrated in this large age group, both men and women. The largest subgroup ranges from 40 to 45 (341 people).

- The older, the more rate. The suicide rate per 100,000 inhabitants among men increases with age, which is not the case for women. Between 25 and 29 years is 9.1, 65 and 69 is 18.4 and between 90 and 94 the rate is 47.6.

- Strangled or hanged. It is, by far, the method most commonly employed by all suicides (1,723). The jump is followed by a vacuum from a high place (705). Women opt for this second form (254), compared to the first (247), as well as poisoning with any substance (137).

- Shot with guns. It is an overwhelmingly male form of suicide. It was used by 186 men as opposed to only eight women.

Friday, 16 June 2017

Social Mexico: Suicide, Deaths of Sadness

Social Mexico: Suicide, Deaths of Sadness


According to the United Nations Information Center (UNIC), at least 3,000 deaths are recorded every day around the world due to suicide. Data from the World Health Organization (WHO) show that for every death case, there are 20 people trying to take their own lives.

Suicide represents a major public health problem stemming from the precarious mental health of millions of human beings who, between despair, frustration, sadness and anger with their societies or their environments, decide that it is preferable to stop living Continue to suffer the evils, real or imaginary, that afflict them. In view of this, the UN established September 10 as the International Day for Suicide Prevention

According to WHO data, the suicide mortality rate has increased by 60% in the last 45 years, with a worldwide average of 16 deaths per 100,000 inhabitants.

The body emphasizes that the population groups in which more cases are registered are those of the youngest people: at the planetary level, suicide is the first cause
Of death for those between ten and 25 years of age.

The situation in the country

The National Institute of Statistics and Geography (Inegi) has a series of documents related to suicides and suicide attempts, of which, the latest publication available on its website dates from 2013, with information for the year 2011.

This document highlights that in 2011 there were 5 718 suicides, of which 4 621 were men, and 95 thousand cases were women. Of the total number of cases,2532 people were single at the time of their death, one thousand 22 lived in free union and1 596 were married.

By age group, the Inegi identifies that in 249 cases they were children and adolescents between ten and 14 years of age; In 1,775 cases they were between 15 and 24 years of age, while in 275 cases they were young people between 25 and 34 years of age. This data imply that 58%
Of suicides occurred among people younger than 35 years.

In addition, it should be noted that, of the total number of suicides recorded, 1,662 cases were unemployed, 826 cases were agricultural workers, 806 cases were artisans, 668 more worked as administrative assistants, 368 cases correspond to persons engaged in trade, and in 790 cases there is a register of other occupations.

If the professions were taken as a reference, they were, in the vast majority of cases, people who were in the lowest income averages of the country, but also in the economic sectors with the highest percentage of people in informal conditions labor.

Dying in agony

Inegi data show that, of the total number of people who died in 2011 due to suicide, 4,406 used the "method" of hanging to kill themselves, which represents 76% of the total; 596 individuals resorted to gunshot; 523 to poisoning; 26 They leapt from some high place; And in 167 cases other procedures were used.

Alarmingly, the figures for suicide mortality
Have increased in recent years. The information from INEGI shows that between 2005 and 2014 there were a total of 51,381 cases of suicide, which means an annualized average of 5,138 cases per year.

This figure is equivalent to an average of 14 suicides per day, or a suicide every 1.7 hours. In addition, one must consider the fact that, for each committed suicide, there are 20 attempts in which the victim fails. This means that in the country there are likely to be 280 cases of suicide attempts every day, that is, 12 attempts per hour.

It is also worth noting that in recent years for which information is available, the weight of suicides in the chapter on "accidental and violent deaths" in the INEGI mortality statistics has increased significantly.

Indeed, between 2005 and 2012, suicides represented, on average, 7.7% of all accidental and violent deaths; That is, in the period indicated, of the 511 thousand 152 total deaths in the category indicated, 51384 cases correspond to the suicides.

However, in the years 2013 and 2014, the figures increased significantly, both in absolute and relative terms.

In fact, in the years indicated there were 5 909 and 6337 cases, respectively, which represented 8.5% and 9.5% of the total of accidental and violent mortality, respectively. Finally, it must be said that suicide mortality remains predominantly male: in fact, of the 51,338 suicides recorded between 2005 and 2014, a total of 41,867 have been committed by men , And 9508 for women, a figure that represents 18.5% of the total.

Suicidal Behavior And Its Prevention

Suicidal Behavior And Its Prevention

Risk factors refer to individual or environmental characteristics that increase the likelihood that a person may commit a suicidal act. Some factors may have more weight than others, and especially the combination of several risk factors.
Although the data have some differences (WHO, 2001; García de Jalón, 2002; Pascual Pascual et al., 2005; Maris, Berman and Silverman, 2000); WHO (2009), in general it could be established that they are risk factors:

Do not have religious ideals. Minor suicide rates have been found among believers and practitioners versus non-believers.
Living in socially isolated areas (especially in the depressed areas of large cities, but also in rural, unpopulated areas).
Suffering from mental disorder: In more than 90% of the cases there is concomitant psychiatric illness (Moscicki, 2001).

In order of frequency we have:
Mood Disorders (affective): The risk of suicide is 15% to 20%, being higher in major depression and bipolar disorder. Suicide is more likely in bipolar disorder than in unipolar disorder and much less in chronic forms. It is less frequent in the first stage of affective complaints. The risk increases in severe forms (major depression) and with age (depression in the elderly). There is also an increased risk of suicide at the onset of antidepressant therapy, as it improves psychomotor inhibition rather than depressive mood.
Seasonal depressions may also influence the relationship between depression and suicide and explain the slight increase in suicide in spring and autumn (Lee, 2006).

Drug addiction: In alcoholism there is a suicide rate of 15%. The incidence is somewhat lower in other drug addictions (10%), such as the consumption of opiates and cocaine. So the abuse of alcohol and psychoactive substances influence 25% of suicides and facilitate the appearance of suicidal ideas.

Schizophrenia: The suicide rate is 10% and 30% of the schizophrenic subjects make suicide attempts (Gómez Macias et al., 2007). It is associated with hallucinatory activity and depression. Schizophrenic disorders are especially risky in the early years of the disease or the weeks after discharge from hospital. It occurs more in young people, in the first four years of evolution of the disease and associated with repeated exacerbations of the disease and attempts at self-harm (Robinson et al., 2010).

Personality Disorders: The most at risk disorders are the dysocial type and borderline personality disorder or borderline and those disorders that are characterized by impulsive behaviors.
Eating disorder and body dysmorphic oscillates between 16% and 39% (Toro and Castro, 2005).

Organic Mental Syndromes: Dementia and Parkinson's disease are included, fundamentally.

Have a history of suicide attempts and threats:
There is a history of previous attempts between 25% and 50% of consummated acts.
There is a tendency to repeat the same suicidal gestures.
Be in the age group corresponding to the young (15-34 years) or the elderly (> 65 years) (Qin, Agerbo and Mortensen, 2003) (Qin, 2005).

In men, the frequency increases with age, with a maximum incidence at 75 years. Consume suicide 2-3 times more than women.

In women the age of greatest incidence is between 55 and 65 years. They try to commit suicide 2-3 times more than men.
Being committed to the following social groups (Qin, Agerbo and Mertensen, 2003) (Qin, 2005):

Marital status: Single, widowed, separated and divorced.
Loneliness: Living alone, loss or failure of a love relationship in the last year.
Loss of role or social status.
To be emigrant or with uprooting and recent marginality.
Belong to the white race.
Having serious problems in the family area (loss of loved ones, family members with mental disorder or drug abuse, family members with suicidal behavior, physical, psychic or sexual violence in the family), social area (social isolation) or work (Loss of work, economic bankruptcy, harassment-labor conflict).
Presence of firearms in the home.
Being incarcerated or newly released.
Suffering from a physical illness that results in chronic pain or an illness that causes disability, whether chronic or terminal (cancer, HIV, multiple sclerosis, motor, visual or auditory disabilities ...) or a crippling or deforming injury.

Risk factors for suicide vary according to age, sex, and cultural and social influences, and may change over time. Suicide risk factors are usually combined. The following are some of the risk factors that may occur:

Suicidal risk factors in childhood
In childhood, the risk factors should be detected, mainly, in the family environment in which the child lives. It is necessary to take into account if it was a wanted child or not, because in this last case there will exist in a greater or less degree, explicitly or covertly, different manifestations of rejection, with the logical psychological repercussion in the minor.

On the one hand, too young parents may have children with problems with the child's education due to psycho-affective immaturity. On the other hand, too old parents may have difficulties in caring for their children by reducing the vital energy that prevents them from satisfying the child's demands, leading to attitudes that range from extreme overprotection to absolute permissiveness.

Mental disorder (disordered personality disorder or emotional instability or a depressive disorder or drug addiction or schizophrenia) of one of the parents may be a risk factor in children.

There is also a risk factor for the child with psychological characteristics of dysphoria, aggressiveness, hostility, manifestations of impulse control disorder, poor tolerance for frustration, unable to delay the satisfaction of their desires, care and affection demanders, with Previous suicidal attempts, manipulators, who assume the role of victim; Jealous of the brothers, susceptible and resentful, who express ideas of dying or suicidal, timid, with poor self-esteem and passives are more susceptible to perform a suicidal act.

Severe mental pathologies in the child is also a risk factor.
The emotional climate in which the child coexists is another risk factor, since a disorganized family environment, a broken home, with frequent arguments and fights between parents or where there is psychological abuse in the form of manifest rejection, humiliation and humiliation, or A household without behavioral rules of each family member can generate a breeding ground for the performance of a suicidal act.

It is also necessary to evaluate the presence of relatives, mainly parents, siblings and grandparents, with a history of suicidal behavior, for the possibility of imitation learning. The existence of friends or schoolmates with such behavior, may also predispose to the performance of this act.

In addition other risk factors may be:
Impaired emotional relationships (divorce of the parents, separation, death of a loved one).
Problems at school with classmates or teachers.
Want to claim affection and attention.
Want to punish others.
Meet with a deceased loved one.

The existence of a motive does not usually trigger a suicidal act immediately, on impulse, but the child begins to give a series of signals in his behavior that in general are manifested in behavioral changes in the house or in school, in Eating habits, sleep habits, mood, games and leisure.

Factors of suicidal risk in adolescence
Adolescence is a period of developing a lot of stress full of very important changes: changes in the body, changes in ideas and changes in feelings. Intense stress, confusion, fear and uncertainty, as well as the pressure for success, and the ability to think about things from a new point of view influence the adolescent's ability to solve problems and make decisions. For some adolescents, normal developmental changes, sometimes accompanied by other events or changes in the family such as divorce or moving to a new community, changes in friendships, difficulties at school or other losses, can cause great disturbance and result Overwhelming Problems can be seen as too violent or difficult to cope with for some.

At home, in addition to the risk factors mentioned in childhood, we must take into account those who leave it permanently very young; Identification with suicidal, depressed or alcoholic relatives; Cohabitation with a mentally ill as the only relative; Socioeconomic difficulties; Permissiveness in the home of certain antisocial behaviors, which reinforce them; Presence among the direct relatives of antisocial personalities, criminals ... (Buendía Vidal, 2004).

In the social aspect, the media can influence to present as a model to follow or admirable the behavior if it is invested of a positive quality. They can also increase the lack of social support, the possibility of acquiring drugs, firearms, etc.

Another risk factor in adolescence is the onset of mental disorder such as depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, schizophrenic disorder or drug abuse.

Adolescence is the age or period in which schizophrenic disorder or drug addiction most often develops.

So some of the risk factors that can occur in adolescence are:
Mental disorder or drug addiction.
Impulsive behaviors.
Unwanted stressful life events or recent losses (family breakdown, separation of parents and lack of communication with parents).
Family history of mental disorder or drug addiction.
Family history of suicide.
Family violence (physical, sexual or verbal / emotional abuse).
Attempted suicide prior.
Presence of firearms in the home.
Exposure to suicidal behaviors of others, including family, friends, news stories or fiction.
Therefore, for the adolescent, it should be assessed as a suicide risk (Pérez Barrero, 2002):
Suicidal behavior (suicidal idea, gestures, threats and suicide plan, method to be used, circumstances in which he would perform, etc.).
Family climate (dysharmonic relationships with parents, family violence, parents with mental illness, relatives with suicidal behavior).
Clinical picture (mental illness, especially depression, schizophrenia and previous suicidal behavior of the adolescent).
Psychological state (hopelessness, feelings of loneliness, anguish, feelings of guilt, drug use, depression, anger, aggressiveness ...).
Stressful life events (death of a relative, love failure with loss of affective relationship, conflicts with friends, at school, family problems, etc.).

It has been argued that hopelessness is more important than depression to explain suicidal ideation, although both are relevant variables to the suicidal act (Beck et al., 1993).

The suicidal act in adolescence should be considered as a point in the continuum of the behavioral problems in question and the need to establish differences between the chronic stressors of their lives and the acute stressors that may precipitate suicidal behavior.

Adolescents may not seek help for suicidal thoughts because they believe that nothing will help or they are reluctant to tell someone they have problems or think that seeking help is a sign of weakness or they do not know where to go for help (Pérez Barrero, 2002 ).

On the other hand, it has been shown that direct or indirect exposure to suicide or suicide behaviors precedes the increase in suicidal behavior (contagion) in people at risk of suicide especially in adolescents and young people.

Suicidal risk factors in the adult
The suicidal risk factors in the adult are formed by those who crawl from childhood and adolescence plus those inherent to this stage of life.
History of psychiatric treatment, whether on an outpatient or inpatient basis.
Possessing a disocial personality disorder.
Abuse of alcohol or other drugs.
Bankruptcy of the company or business.
Attempted suicide prior.
Unemployment, especially in the first year, can be a predisposing factor, as well as professional failure.
Criminal history (injuries, homicide, robbery, etc.).
Among the risk factors in the adult is alcoholism.
The following characteristics predispose to suicidal acts in alcoholics:
Have low socioeconomic status.
Belong to the male sex.
Have poor social support.
Do not have a job.
Living alone.
Having suicidal thoughts.
Abusing alcohol from a young age.
To suffer physical illness.
Comorbidity with major depression, diisocial personality disorder or anxiety disorder.
Possess family members with a history of attempted suicide.
Depressive disorders continue to be a risk factor in the adult, especially if they fulfill the following characteristics:
Suicidal behavior (threats, gestures, suicidal ideation ...).
Chronic sleep disorders.
Inhibition of effects and aggressiveness.
Depressive phase that ends.
Chronic disease.
Comorbidity with alcoholism.
Family problems during childhood and adolescence.
Loss of affective relationships.
Professional or economic difficulties.
Absence or loss of religious belief.
It is considered that the association of hopelessness, feelings of guilt, uselessness, various delusions with a depressive mood poses a great suicidal risk.

In relation to schizophrenia in the adult, it is considered that there are two groups of suicides:
People with improvement and no positive symptoms (hallucinations, delusions), but with feelings of frustration and hopelessness.
People whose symptomatology is anguish, agitation, hallucinations and delusional ideas.

They also have suicidal risk adults who in their profession or in their business have had some scandal that they have caused.
In some people, mostly women, a marital relationship that does not meet expectations can become a suicide risk factor. Single women are less likely to commit suicide than single men, while married men have less suicidal danger than married women.

Suicidal risk factors in old age
Older people have the highest rates of suicide and constitute a growing segment of the population. It is foreseeable that the absolute number of their suicides will continue to increase, so it is necessary to deepen risk factors in old age.
It is known that this behavior in the elderly has the following distinctive features:
They perform fewer suicide attempts.
They use deadly methods.
They reflect fewer warning signs.
Such acts are premeditated, reflective.
They can take the form of passive suicides (let themselves die).
The following profile has been described: widowed, with deteriorated health, isolated, with poor social support and depressed, who is fired with a firearm (Matusevich and Pérez Barrero, 2009).
Aging brings with it the abandonment of the profession or other goals, reduction of physical vigor, change in sensual pleasures and an awareness of the unknown death in previous stages. Also physical problems that the person of the third age must face, as: the arthritic pathology, that affects the locomotion; Cardiovascular diseases, which limit physical exercise; The neurological disease, which compromises intellectual function, and cancer, which causes pain, dependence and death (Matusevich and Pérez Barrero, 2009).

Emotional problems include a certain depression and an alteration of self-esteem, to which are added the social pressures derived from retirement, dependency, the death of family and friends, the loss of economic security, among others.
As evidenced, there are sufficient conditions inherent to old age that are a suitable breeding ground for this behavior to manifest itself.

So, among the risk factors in old age are:
Chronic, terminal, painful, disabling and disabling diseases, such as Parkinson's, Alzheimer's dementia or other such as chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

Depressions of any etiology, drug or alcohol abuse, chronic sleep disorders, paranoid disorders with great mistrust and agitation, and mental confusion.

Feelings of solitude and uselessness, inactivity, boredom, lack of vital projects and tendency to recall the past.

Loss of loved ones due to natural or suicidal deaths. The first year after the death of the spouse is a critical moment because the stressful life event can trigger a depression and alter the immune system, which facilitates somatic pathology, mainly infectious.