Sunday, 1 October 2017



Intimidation is a means to frighten, coerce, to terrify, to threaten, and to scare someone. Imagine the thinking and feeling of the Israelites soldiers before Goliaths, intimidation is a thing of the heart, thought, and imagination. It is fear and wrong thoughts expressed through feelings, emotions, attitude, etc.

The purpose of intimidation is to frighten you to surrender and submission, thereby forsaking your confidence and chicken out of the race of destiny. It is intended to rub you of your portion.

Intimidation is seeing yourself wrongly. Intimidation set in when you begin to have a wrong opinion about yourself and your ability.
Intimidation makes you think and feel small, worthless.

Sources of intimidation

1. Success. Your sophisticated, intellectual capabilities and intelligence can make some insecure people around you feel intimidated and uncomfortable.
Social status. Your neat and clean disposition, elegant and corporate taste can be interpret by some as pride.

2. Academic success. Your quest for academic excellence and exploration of potential deposited in you through education can be intimidating to the mediocre around you.

A proper thinking person must not be intimidated with academic success of others but rather be challenged and motivated.

3. Flaunted Integrity.  Integrity can be flaunted, whenever you begin to behave and talk with an holier than thou attitude, proving that you are the only person that has integrity, it never helps the weak, it only intimidate them.

4. Presumed superiority. Erroneous thinking or over evaluating others and their achievement. Such thought may influence you to feel inferior and humiliated.

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5. Refusal to Appreciate Yourself. If you fail to locate, develop and appreciate your talent, you may feel intimidated when in company of others maximizing theirs.

6. Ignorance of Your Worthiness. Ignorance is the mother of fear. Ignorance of your worthiness may be the source of your intimidation. Cultivate self confidence, belief your dream is obtainable.

Don't allow other peoples passion for their dream to intimidate you. Instead of being uncomfortable with their great dreams , appreciate them, so that you too can be blessed.

It is better to associate with dreamers than with the dreamless.
Failure to support other peoples dreams is a minus to the realization of your own dream.

7. Obsolete Self Concept. Some are still clinging to an out mode self perception. Negative comments about them from childhood is still in their mind when they are no longer what the speakers said they are.

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Effects of intimidation

Intimidation both have spiritual, physical and psychological effects. It's used in warfare to weaken the opponent. Never allow intimidation in any form.

1. Inferiority complex
2. Fear
3. Feeling inadequate.
4. Withdrawal and isolation.
5. Self doubt.
6. Confusion and nervousness.
7. Feeling insecurity.
8. Excessive humility.
9. Inhibition

How To Overcome Intimidation

1. Identity the Source. Knowing the source will help you assess and evaluate the intimidation. You can determine how it's affecting you, its influence on your emotion, your personality, fulfilment and joy.
Think over these questions:
a. Why are you intimidated?
b. What is intimidating you?
c. Who is intimidating you?
d. What can you do about it?
e. Why is he able to intimidate you?
How is he/she doing it?
Knowing what intimidate you and why, will help you overcome it.

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2. Improve Yourself. We all are hunters on earth. What we are hunting may differ , but certainly everyone is hunting for something.
For you to be marketable, you need to  work on yourself spiritually, educationally, physically, and socially.

Improve your manner, spoken language, dressing, related, and attitude. Become enthusiastic. Enhance your mental capability.

3. Work on Your Talent. One of the key secret of success is identification of your talent or spiritual gift. Whatever you will be in life will be through your talent. Discover your talent, work on it, sharpen it, cultivate and nurture it.

4. Develop Your Skills. Skill is define as the "ability to do something well, especially because you have learned and practice it"- Longman Dictionary.

Every training either formal or informal is necessary  for you to become self confident. When you have all the experience that is needed to do something well, courage will occupy your heart.

5. Think Positively. Avoid rivalry mentality. Shun bitter competition. Comparison is dangerous, and harmful.

Believe that you Are good. There is one area where you are also better than others.

6. Control Your Fear. Overcome jittery and nervousness. I have learnt that achievement build confidence. Fear is a state of mind. Fear is expectation of evil. Fear is expressed worry. Fear is opposite of faith.

Everyone is prone to fear, but the mature one control it  and act bold.

7. Act Bold. Don't over analyse what intimidates you. Your evaluation is meant to help you prepare for ways and manners of overcoming the problem.

Bold people only choose to act bold. They are also prone to fear, but they chose not to fear.

8. Be your Best Always. If you don't want to be intimidated, be your best always. Never engage in any action without proper preparation.

9. Seek for Counsel. Consult your mentor  for proper counsel .

10. Have Faith in God. The most surest way to break the yoke of intimidation is through Faith in God. Surrender yourself to God. Fill your heart with His word. Let Him be your only fear.

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Kehinde Pius O