Saturday, 6 April 2019

12 Elements of a healthy relationship

12 Elements of a healthy relationship

One of the crucial needs of every man is a healthy relationship, because anything contrary to this will directly or indirectly affect other areas of his life. The link is so vital in life because none of us have all it takes in term of skills, talents, abilities, resources, etc. to live a life entirely independently alone.

Are you having difficulties building a healthy relationship? Don't worry; there's help coming your way through this article. Pay due attention to the elements of creating a healthy relationship I shall be discussing in this article and your involvement in this year 2019 will be ten times better.

12 Elements of a healthy relationship

1. Reaching out to others.

Quite some people want to establish relationships with others, but they are not willing to reach out. They are not willing to extend themselves. And there can't be relationship until you are ready to stretch yourself and make an effort to build a relationship.
Every healthy relationship is a two-way street, and both parties must be committed to reaching out.

2. Enjoy each other.

Noting make life boring greater than being in a relationship with someone you don't enjoy being together with. That is the principal reason behind many broken homes today- they never for once enjoyed their spouses. And whatever you don't enjoy, you can't appreciate it.

Never underestimate the value of having fun together- with your friends, spouses, children... Having fun and laughing together are signs of a healthy relationship.

How long has it been since you've had a good laugh with your spouse, friends, or your family?

3. Loyal to each other.

In a healthy relationship, it is vital you're loyal to each other. There can be no friendship without this element. You can't be a true friend if you don't know how to be faithful.

Loyalty is one quality of a faithful person. A loyal friend is dependable- someone you can trust and count upon. And trust is a vital part of any relationship.

Do your family members and friends have confidence in you? Are you so loyal that someone can tell you a thing and that is as far as it goes? If you're going to have a successful relationship, when someone says you something in confidence, it should go no further. Your ability to keep faith is a mark of your loyalty.

4. Available to each other.

Do you maintain your relationships with the motto "Out of sight, out of mind"?This in another world, as long as your friends are in sight, you have a relationship with them, but when your friends aren't around, you don't ever think about them.

Being available in your relationships involves being there when you're needed.

When your spouse or friends needs you the most, are you always available?

5. Trusting each other.

Trust has to be earned, and it takes time to make it.

That's why relationship takes time to build. Houses aren't built in a day, and neither are healthy relationships. You can't just say " House be built," and have it just appear for you to live in.

Similarly, you can't go out one day and say, "I have a relationship with So-and-so" and expect to have a meaningful relationship with that person. No, lasting relationships are built over some time.

George Eliot, a Victorian writer, and liberal free-thinker, once said, "No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reference."

If you've ever had your trust broken by someone, you've probably felt alone and deserted.

We need to be the kind of friends that people can trust.

Can your fiance or spouse trust you? When you said you're going to do a thing, can people trust you to get it done?

6. The sixth elements of building a healthy relationship are showing interest. You can't have a relationship unless you are genuinely interested in each other.

If you want to establish a relationship with another person, instead of trying to get that person interested in you, become involved in him or her! ( That piece of advice may help some singles!).
Sometimes the best thing we can do for another person is to give that person our undivided attention. All of us have to work at giving our full attention because we are so busy. Sometimes when people talk to us, we don't hear what they are saying because we are busy thinking about something else. We are not interested in listening to them.

Are you genuinely interested in other people? Taking a keen interest in other people is one way to build and maintain a relationship. And when you show interest, you'll reap the reward of having people take an interest in you.

7. Open with each other

The seventh elements requires that you are open with each other. Having a meaningful relationship with someone requires taking a risk. You can't have a good relationship if you are not accessible. And be open to someone means you may be vulnerable to him or her as well. There is a degree of vulnerability in every good relationship you begin, but it's worth the risk.

If you are going to have a genuine relationship, you have to be real; you have to be true. There can be no facades or hypocrisy in the link if it is to succeed.

Too many people put up a false front when trying to establish a relationship. It doesn't work.

Cicero said, "friendship by its nature admits of no feigning, no pretense: as far as it goes it is both genuine and spontaneous." We must learn to be real and open with ourselves.

8. Needing each other.

John Donne, a British metaphysical poet, said that no man is an island. That means no one is complete in himself. We all need each other.

We need each other to get the work done. And we need relationships that are trustworthy and dependable.

Mother Teresa once said, " What I can do, you cannot. What you can do, I cannot. But together we can do something beautiful for the Lord.

9. Supporting each other.

We need to support whoever we claimed to be having a relationship with. And we also need their support when we are facing a negative situation. We are to help each other in times of trouble, and we are to help each other succeed.

10. Helping each other

Everyone will need someone else to help at one time or another. Sometimes we do kind deeds for people because we want something in return. We need to help people who aren't able to reciprocate your kindness.

11. Investing in each other

It's been said, "Friendships is like a bank account. You cannot continue to withdraw on it without making deposits".

If we must experience a healthy relationship, we are going to have to spend time investing in each other.

12. Praying for each other.

The place of sincere fervent prayers in building a health relationship cannot be over emphasized. There are several forces contending against your relationship from working out, so you need to always watch over each other in prayers. That's why you must be sure your relationship is firmly rooted in Christ Jesus alone.

Thank you for reading my 12 discovered and working elements of a healthy relationship. If you have problem in your relationship, or find it difficult to start one, please contact me, and I'll be more than willing to offer you help.